A lot of members are already in a marriage or a long relationship. Say so if that is you, and say what you can and cannot offer. That is fairer than letting someone find out after they have rearranged their week. Discretion is a description of the arrangement, not a reason to be vague.
You can be warm without writing your life story. One honest paragraph and a current photo will do more than a gallery of old pictures or a list of compliments you want paid to you. Say your decade. People looking for a peer should not have to guess.
Be specific about time and about secrecy. "I can meet for an hour in the daytime, and I need this kept between us" is a useful profile. "I want something discreet and passionate" is not, because it could mean anything and it asks the other person to take the risk of asking.
Take your time. A discreet arrangement is a reason to be careful, not a reason to rush into meeting a stranger or into sending photos you cannot get back. A few messages on Only Amour, then a public first meeting, is still the right order in your forties and fifties.
Leave your surname, your workplace, and your children's names off the profile. The people you are hoping to meet are often protecting the same things. A profile that overshares does not read as trusting. It reads as unsafe.
If the conversation turns to money, a fee, or a crisis that only you can solve, stop and use the guide on fake profiles. Age does not make that pattern rarer. It makes it more expensive.
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