Being widowed is not a reason to hide that you are single. If you want a relationship you can tell people about, say that plainly, and expect the replies to come from people who want the same thing. Some women want company that stays private, because the town is small, the children are watchful, or they are not ready to be seen as dating. If that is you, say so in ordinary words.
"I was widowed, I am single, and I want occasional company that stays between us" is a profile. You do not have to add how he died, or when, or that you feel unsure. The other adult needs to know you are free, and what you can offer. They do not need the grief.
Do not write that you are still married. Do not write as if the marriage did not matter, either, by pretending you have an empty past. Say you are single. Say whether a night away is possible. Say if you want this kept from your family. Those three sentences are the arrangement.
A man who treats the bereavement as a reason to rush you, to ask for money, or to demand photos is not being kind. Stop. The guide on spotting a fake profile describes that pattern. You do not owe him the story in order to be polite. Only Amour will never ask you for a fee.
Keep his name, your address, and your children's names off the page. A web search does not open your profile. Who can see your profile is the list. For women who want a discreet arrangement is what else you can refuse, including a move off the site.
If the change in your life was a divorce rather than a death, use the guide for women after a divorce. Either way, one honest paragraph is enough to start. The rest can wait until you know who is reading it.
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