If you are divorced, say so. A divorce is not the same fact as a marriage you are still in. "I am divorced, I live in Bristol, and I want an occasional meeting that stays between us" is a sentence someone can answer. A hint is harder to trust, because the other person has to guess which life you are actually in.
You do not owe a stranger the story of the marriage. Who left, what he did, and how the settlement went do not make a profile more honest. They make it a document. One paragraph about what you can offer now is enough. If you can meet in the daytime and you cannot stay the night, say that. If you are not ready for anything your friends would hear about, say that too.
Adult children, a small town, or a workplace where you would rather not be seen on a date are ordinary reasons to want this kept private. Say the limit. Do not write that you are still married if you are not. The other person will plan around the sentence you give them.
Leave your former spouse's name, your children's names, your address, and your workplace off the profile. A photo does not need to show the house. The guide on how discretion works is the rest of that list. The guide for women who want a discreet arrangement covers what you do not owe a stranger, including a naked photo and a move to another app.
Take the pace you actually have. A man who wants the whole history in the first note, or who wants to meet tonight because he is "only in town", can wait. If the conversation turns to money, a fee, or a crisis only you can solve, stop. The guide on spotting a fake profile is that pattern. Only Amour will never charge you to read a message.
If you have been widowed, the next guide is for women who have been widowed. The profile is still one honest paragraph. The past does not have to be the first thing you hand over.
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