A small town is a reason to be specific, and a reason to leave the identifying details off. "I live in a small town, I am married, and I can meet one town over at lunch" is a profile. The name of the village, the school, and the only café are how a private hour becomes a story.
On Privacy you can choose not to appear to other members in your own town. You can still look through the town. They will not find your profile there. That switch does not hide you from someone who already knows your username. It stops a neighbour browsing the town from opening the page.
Meet where you are not already known. Meeting in another town is that place. If you can only meet in the daytime is the hour, if that is the limit. A job where you cannot be seen dating is the other half, when the town and the workplace are the same people.
Do not name a partner, a child, or a workplace. If you recognise a neighbour, say nothing about it outside the site. If you recognise someone is that promise. Only Amour will never ask you for a fee to hide the profile, or to message someone.
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