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Keeping this from your children

How a teenager or a grown-up child can come across a dating app, and what to keep off the phone, the profile, and the first meeting.
A phone lying face down on a kitchen table, next to a closed laptop.

A child does not have to be told about a private arrangement. A lock-screen preview, a shared camera roll, or a tablet that stays signed in is how they find it anyway. Turn previews off. Sign out of any device that is not only yours. Do not save their photo, their name, or their school to the profile, and do not send those in a message.

The meeting cannot be at home if they might walk in, and it cannot be somewhere they are dropped off. Say the hour you have, and keep it. If you can only meet in the daytime is that shape. A man who wants the evening, the house, or a photograph of your life there has not accepted the limit.

You can say you have children without naming them. That one clause stops people suggesting a plan you cannot keep. You do not owe their ages or which nights they are home. Who can see your profile is the list of what other members see. A web search does not open it. Searching the family iPad might, if you left it signed in.

If you would rather not appear to other members in your own town, that switch is on Privacy. You can still look through the town. They will not find your profile there. You can also pause the profile while you decide.

Only Amour is for adults. Do not upload a photo of a child, and do not use the site to talk about anyone under 18. We will never ask you for a fee to keep the account, or to hide it. If the worry is a parent, a sibling, or a community, when your family would talk is that page.

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