If you are married, say so. A profile that waits until the third message is not discreet. It is a surprise, and the other person has already started planning around a version of you that is not true. "I am married, I live in Leeds, and I can meet for an hour at lunch" is a complete sentence. Women in the same position recognise it.
Say what you can offer, and say what you cannot, in that same sentence. A weekday lunch, an hour in the daytime, and a meeting that stays between you are an offer. A public relationship, a night away, and leaving the marriage are not, unless they really are. Hints attract people who are guessing. A yes or no sentence attracts people who want the same thing.
Do not name your husband, your children, or your workplace. Those details do not make the profile more honest. They put people who did not agree to this into it. Where you are, that you are married, and the time you actually have is the whole fact. The guide on if you are already married is the shorter version of that, written for anyone. This one is the version women look for.
You do not owe a stranger a naked photo, a surname, or a move to WhatsApp to prove you can be discreet. A careful person can stay on Only Amour. Anyone who says the site is being watched, and that you should continue somewhere else, is using a common line. The guide for women who want a discreet arrangement is the list of what you can refuse.
If the marriage is over in every way that matters and the paperwork has not caught up, say separated, not married. Those are different arrangements. Separated, but not divorced is that page. If the limit is the daytime, say that on its own. If you are still deciding whether you want this at all, read thinking about an affair before you show a profile.
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