A careful member can stay on Only Amour. Messaging is free, and the conversation can be reported here. Someone who wants WhatsApp, email, or a text in the first few messages is asking you to leave the place where that report works.
The usual reasons sound practical. They are rarely online. The site feels watched. Their phone is easier. Sometimes they say they need your surname, your workplace, or a photo of your face beside a newspaper before they will continue. None of that is how a discreet arrangement starts.
Money is the same pattern in a different coat. A fee to unlock messages, a gift card, a bill, a favour for a friend. Only Amour does not charge you to send a message. A member who says we do is not telling you the truth. Do not pay to test them.
A real person can answer one plain question, and can wait. They can get on a short video call without you sending identifying photos first. Urgency is the useful sign. Someone who needs you to break your own rules tonight is not being careful.
Stay on the site until you have met them, or until you have decided not to. If they already have a photo, a number, or a name you regret, stop replying. Do not negotiate. Report the profile and block them. The guide on fake profiles covers the earlier signs.
Discretion is something two adults owe each other. It is not a reason to follow a stranger off the site because they asked nicely. A reserved person waits. You can wait too.
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