On Only Amour, an affair means an occasional meeting between two adults who have both agreed to keep it private. It is not a second household, and it is not a relationship you introduce to friends. If that is what you want, say so. People who want the same thing can answer. People who want something public can look elsewhere. The guide on why the site is called Amour is the shorter explanation of the word, if that is what you came to read.
It is not a coded promise to leave someone. "Discreet" does not mean "I will leave them when the time is right" unless you write that sentence yourself. If you are hoping to leave, say that you are separated, or that you want a relationship. Do not let an affair stand in for a plan you have not made.
Both people set the shape. How often, how secret, and whether it is allowed to become anything else. One person does not get to decide that in the third meeting. If you cannot be public, if you cannot stay the night, if you cannot message in the evening, that belongs in the first conversation.
You do not owe a stranger the story of your marriage, and they do not owe you theirs. You do owe them the fact of it. An affair that starts with a lie about being single is how someone gets hurt, and it is how a careful arrangement becomes a mess.
Keep the detail off the profile. Where you are, that you are married or single, and what you can offer is enough. Surnames, workplaces, and photographs you cannot take back stay out of the first messages. The guide on how discretion works is the list of what never belongs on the page.
If you cannot keep it private, do not start. Discretion is something you owe the other person as well as yourself. Do not name them to friends, do not screenshot their photos, and do not turn up at a place they have told you is part of their ordinary life.
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