In a relationship is not a softer way of saying single, and it is not the same as married. It means there is already someone in their life, and the arrangement they can offer is limited by that. On Only Amour, people can put that on the profile. Look for the words. Do not guess them from a photo.
A man in a relationship and a woman in a relationship are making the same kind of offer: something private, with a person who is not leaving that relationship to do it. If you wanted a public relationship, say so somewhere else. If you can live with the limit, say the limit back.
Write your own status in one sentence. Single, married, engaged, or in a relationship are different answers, and the other person needs yours before they suggest a time. "I am in a relationship, I can meet in the daytime, and this stays between us" is enough. You do not owe the story of the relationship, or their name.
Do not push them to call it something else. Someone who wrote "in a relationship" has already declined to pretend they are single. Asking them to hide that, or to leave, is a different conversation from the one they offered. If you cannot accept the words on the profile, do not message.
The site is free to join and free to message. You do not need another app to find someone in this situation, and you should not hand over a phone number to prove you can be discreet. The guide on why it is better to stay on the site is that risk.
The guide on when a relationship feels separate is the longer description of why someone already partnered might be here. The guide on saying what the arrangement is is the wording, if you are stuck on your own sentence.
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