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A Secret Affairs alternative

Secret Affairs is a UK site for adults who want a discreet arrangement. Only Amour is a separate site for adults who want a discreet arrangement with someone who wants the same thing. Joining is free. There is no subscription and no credit card.

In short

Only Amour does not charge to join or to message. A profile is for members who are signed in. Secret Affairs is a different service. Check their site for what they charge and what a profile shows.

Who it may suit

Only Amour

  • You want a discreet arrangement with someone who wants the same thing, without a subscription.
  • You want a username on the profile, not your legal name.
  • You want to pause the profile without deleting it.

Secret Affairs

  • You already use Secret Affairs and you want to stay there.
  • You want to look at both and decide for yourself.
  • Their current terms match what you want. Check Secret Affairs. Those terms change.

Side by side

The first line is what we do. The second line is what to check on Secret Affairs. We do not publish their terms.

Cost

Only Amour is free to join and free to message. A voice call or a video call on the site is free. There is no subscription and no credit card, so there is no charge on a statement.

Secret Affairs sets its own price. Check their site before you join. A price can change.

The profile

Other members see the username you chose, your age, your town, and the photos you chose. They do not see your surname, your address, or your workplace unless you type those in. A web search does not open the profile.

See what Secret Affairs puts on a profile, and whether a web search can open it.

The age check

The age check is free. A person reviews the ID. Other members never see the document, and your legal name is not put on the profile. Until it is approved, you cannot message, and other members' photos stay blurred.

See how Secret Affairs checks that a member is an adult.

Photos

A person reviews an upload. One current photo of you is enough before search opens. A private photo stays locked until you share it. Until the other member has done the age check, your photos stay blurred for them.

See who can open a photo on Secret Affairs, and whether you can keep one private.

Messages

The conversation stays on Only Amour. You do not have to reply. A message that asks for an email address or a phone number is not delivered.

See whether Secret Affairs lets a stranger ask you to move the conversation somewhere else.

Leaving

You can pause the profile. Other members cannot find it while it is paused, and you can still look. Only Amour has a quick exit: Shift and Escape leaves the site. Deleting the account removes the profile and the messages you sent. Delete photos and videos first. That cannot be undone.

See how to pause or close an account on Secret Affairs.

Frequently asked questions

Is Only Amour free?

Yes. Joining Only Amour is free and messaging is free. There is no subscription and no credit card.

Can a web search find my profile?

No. A profile on Only Amour is for members who are signed in. Searching the web does not open it.

What if someone asks for money?

Only Amour will never ask you for money, a gift card, or a verification payment. Stop, and report the profile. They are not told that you reported them.

Should I leave Secret Affairs?

That is your choice. This page says what Only Amour does. It does not tell you to close another account. Check Secret Affairs for their current terms.

Does Only Amour speak for Secret Affairs?

No. Secret Affairs publishes its own terms, and those terms change. Check their site for the current cost, privacy, and how to leave.

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